in the last several weeks, i have had a ton of conversations about life, love and loyalty. maybe that is just part of the deal with turning 30? things seem to be more serious and more significant. i definitely don’t mind it but it definitely has me in a more contemplative space.

when i was in the bay a little over a week ago, i got to spend some quality time with my dear friends, anj and aaron. in discussing relationships, and more specifically, friendships, there were a series of questions and ideas proposed about loyalty and reciprocity. both are crucial for any healthy relationship. it reminded me of this quote from billy chapata.

“are you loyal to you as much as you are loyal to other people? or does your loyalty not understand what reciprocation is yet?” -billy chapata

damn.

here’s the thing: while loyalty and reciprocity are crucial in building relationships, the most important relationship you have is the one with yourself. it sets the tone for all of your other relationships.

so with that, i ask you, are you loyal to you as much as you are loyal to other people? i would love to hear your thoughts.

xoxo,

k. tap