at the beginning of the month, i was fortunate enough to spend a week in puerto rico with some of the most wonderful humans i know. while a recap of the trip will likely be up eventually, i had to show you all one of my new swimsuits from old navy right now!
something i love is that you can mix and match them since they are sold as separates. and, if you are fuller on top or in the trunk, you can buy the size to accommodate that. old navy has tons of bathing suits that are inclusive in size.
i don’t know if it is because the weather forecast shows that it’s going to be in the 80s this weekend or if it is me being water obsessed but summer really is calling my name. i will be posting more suits soon. i hope everyone’s week is off to a solid start.
after grad school, i told myself i would get back into reading for pleasure. when there aren’t thousands of pages to plow through every 10 weeks, it is funny how you have the capacity to consume books for fun. during the pandemic, i asked my fellow bookworms for recommendations and this one came up over and over again. a couple of weeks ago, while in puerto rico for spring break, i finished a book by elaine welteroth that i am certain i will read again and again – more than enough.
first, this was an incredibly easy read. it felt like elaine and i were either exchanging stories at a boozy brunch or at a sleepover with girlfriends where you share your deepest and darkest secrets, hold on to the magical nuggets of wisdom that are dropped and laugh until your sides hurt. as a fellow black woman who was raised in california (and even did a 10 year stint in the bay), there was so much familiarity. elaine covers everything from imposter syndrome to being the only person in a space that was not created with you in consideration to colorism within the black community to navigating heartbreak to remembering not to shrink ourselves in an effort to make those around me more comfortable with their shortcomings.
there truly is something for everyone but a little something extra for those of us identifying as millennials, women, black, biracial or simply someone trying to shatter both ceilings and stereotypes. my top takeaways from the book were:
own every piece of yourself unapologetically
if you believe a space is for you, others will believe it is, too
the dopest shit happens outside of your comfort zone
there is a fine line between being dedicated to your work and your work being detrimental to your health – know the difference
don’t be afraid to let your loved ones show up for you in times of need
something tells me that my upcoming thought of the week will be courtesy of elaine welteroth. i can’t wait to see what she does next.
i love a birthday celebration and after the last year we’ve had, i would argue that it is even more important to give your people their flowers while they are still here to enjoy them. since i already knew that i would be in san diego for some much needed quality time with hilly, we (hilly, lauren and i) made sure to do a birthday dinner for our girl t. she has been kicking ass and taking names all year as a registered nurse amidst a pandemic and has done it with grace. when we asked her where she would like to go, without hesitation, she mentioned brigantine at portside pier. i have been dreaming about it ever since.
dining with the four of us is easy as we all have similar palettes. we started with the crab and shrimp fondue with garlic toast, a jumbo lump crab cake and fresh steamed black mussels. to say we thoroughly enjoyed our starters would be a gross understatement.
for my main course, i had two oysters and their crab and lobster cobb salad. because i was also strongly considering the shrimp and louie crab salad, i had them bring the dressings for both on the side so i could have the best of both worlds. 10/10 would do again.
the cocktails were unreal. all of us are vodka girls however the three of them enjoyed a few dirty martinis that were made to perfection while i had three different vodka based cocktails. one was more floral (with elderflower), one was more fresh (with basil and citrus) but my absolute favorite is what i am going to call a blackberry smash. i cannot find the actual name anywhere but it had muddled blackberries, fresh lemon and the perfect punch of vodka.
between the great service, the beautiful view and the extraordinary meal, i never wanted to leave. already counting down the seconds until my return to san diego and brigantine at portside pier.
p.s. i would highly suggest making a reservation through opentable to streamline the process and guarantee swift seating
since turning 31, i have been feeling this greater sense of confidence. i am feeling the most comfortable i’ve ever felt in my own skin. there is this unapologetic vibe that has taken over and it is so freeing. i have been showing up in spaces as my truest self and the doors that are opening are unreal. it is beautiful to witness.
this quote sums it up perfectly…
“i can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself.” -emma stone