asia 2025

as drizzy drake said, “better late than never, but never late is better.” we (and by we, i mean i) will be working on the second half of that quote as we wrap up the final month of summer.

for those of you that are new here, my name is kristin tappan or k.tap as many people call me. i have been blogging since january of 2019. an unfortunate trend is that this blog falls to the bottom of my to do list when things are more chaotic on the work front. i have slowly but surely been working to figure out how to play catch up from the end of last year and last year certainly ended with a bang. four countries across asia in a little under two weeks with one of your best friends across the holiday season? i could not recommend it more.

when maddie (one of my old RAs turned friends) invited me to her wedding in january of 2025 in vietnam, my immediate answer was yes. i had been dying to go to asia and this was the perfect opportunity to do so. my thought process was if i am going to travel thousands miles to another continent, let’s make the fucking most of it. when thinking what other places seemed nonnegotiable, the top three were indonesia (specifically, bali), japan (as a whole) and seoul in south korea. when thinking about who might be crazy enough to commit to four countries i had never been to while also missing a california christmas and new year celebration, the first person that came to mind was melissa. i can picture myself curled up on her couch with her pitbull and asking her if she had plans for christmas of 2025 – her response was “where are we going? i’m in.” and that is how our tour of asia went from a simple idea to a real plan.

i was fixated on being in bali for christmas which meant we needed that to be the first leg of the trip. ho chi minh city for the wedding would be second. we would explore japan to ring in the new year there afterwards and end with a short and peaceful trip to seoul. melissa used her amex to book our flights in the event we ran into issues, there would be a concierge to do the leg work to get us rebooked. i handled lodging and our itinerary as a whole, especially with melissa being kind enough to agree to being my plus one.

let’s get to it – first stop: bali!

if you are coming from the west coast, i would highly recommend a redeye. we left at nearly midnight and with our first leg being roughly 15 hours, the goal was to sleep for about half that time. we had a five hour layover in taipei before officially landing in bali. we looked and felt like we had traveled for 24 hours however when we got to our villa, absolutely none of that mattered.

the left side are the sliding doors to our kitchen and living room while the right side has our two side by side master suites
anytime we were at our villa and not in bed, you would find us in the pool
breakfast was consumed in the pool daily with fresh pressed juices – we both opted for watermelon every single time

i knew we would be lifeless upon our arrival to bali so there were no plans for night one either than getting settled, enjoying the amenities of our villa and hydrating because we knew that the cabana we rented accommodate six people would be occupied by just half that the following day. i will never go to bali without going to finn’s beach club.

all day parties should have sushi this good
salmon sashimi
christmas eve selfie
we agreed to only get mojitos if they have 10+ servings
sunset

melissa and i were so obsessed with our host that we asked him to join us at the day party and he agreed. for roughly $250 usd, the three of us partied for about six hours before hitting the minimum. we had truly seen nothing like it – the service was impeccable, the food was delicious, the drinks packed a punch, the music catered to people across all generations and places and the magic shows were captivating.

for christmas day, we took a different approach – a spa day and dinner at the four seasons. i saw this spa on a comedian’s instagram months before going and figured it might be a stretch because while i am not pinching pennies, i also do not have hbo special money. something told me to look it up anyway. when i did, i kept recalculating the total cost as i was positive i must have been doing the conversions wrong. how was a 2.5 hour spa experience $48 usd per person including gratuity? this does in fact exist. welcome to putri bali spa.

to know me is to know few things compare to a good massage + bath combo. the detox package at the spa included 15 minutes in a sauna, infused waters, an hour long massage, a full body sugar scrub, a rainfall shower, a 30-45 minute soak in a flower bath and fresh pressed juices to enjoy while in the tub.

flower bath
heaven on earth
christmas 2025
recovery

after the spa, we went back to our villa to get ready for christmas dinner and enjoyed to best meal we had while in bali at riverside at the four seasons.

this was one of multiple plates enjoyed

we were so sad to leave the next day but before boarding our flight, told our host we would be back in february of 2027 for my birthday. i think he thought we might be kidding until i booked out every villa on the property a few months ago. i am nothing if not a planner. next stop? ho chi minh city.

arriving a couple of days before the wedding was important to me both to leave a buffer in the event anything did not go according to plan and to have time to see some of vietnam outside of the wedding. our first stop? 2cms wine bar.

it’s the details for me – our reservation was marked by this wine bottle turned lamp
2cms menus
course one
course two
course three
course four
course five
dessert
favorite wine of the trip
because water is for overachievers

the service? 10 out of 10. we got to hear the story of how the couple founded the establishment, try foods that were completely new to us and fall in love with new wines in a place that is clearly valued by locals.

on our second day in vietnam, melissa and i had separate agendas. i attended a tea for our bride to be, maddie. melissa did room service in bed.

bridal tea
with our bride to be

while this all sounds incredibly innocent, we were fighting for our lives later that night/early the next morning aka wedding day. we were given strict instructions to take a pill called travelan before every single meal. up until this point, neither of us had missed a dose. with this being the one meal we did not consume together, we did not have an accountability partner to remind one another and when i tell you we paid for it, that would be the grossest understatement of the year. let’s just say we are grateful to have been sick on alternating hours.

even still, we were determined to make it to the wedding and were so glad we did. the love was reverberating off of the couple.

the newlyweds
wedding selfie

our favorite part of the wedding? hearing the groom’s mother talk about how much their family loved the bride, maddie. our least favorite part? not being able to enjoy any of the eight (maybe even 10?) course dinner due to needing to slowly eat ice chips to not get sick at the table. melissa and i have ZERO pictures together from this day. and the next day? we were off to japan!

we landed around midnight and by the time we got to our hotel, it was around 2am. we had the best uber driver and he was in a full blown suit and left his car running to walk hundreds of feet to get us inside of our hotel and be sure that any language barriers would not complicate our check-in experience. i will NEVER get over how clean japan is. to be honest, i need to go back for a couple of weeks as there is so much to do and see. with melissa and i not operating at full capacity, the things were able to accomplish were keeping a meal down, some light walking around various cities and some vintage shopping. i took ZERO photos of the one sushi meal we had in japan which if you know me is truly wild.

gratitude for comfortable beds and infrequent bathroom trips
the first trifecta in days!!!
the most american nye featuring dominoes, canada dry and champagne in bed featuring one of our favorite podcasts, t.r.u.s.t

on january 1st, we made our way to seoul for 48 hours. the goal was simple: find all of the good skincare and eat well now that our stomachs were operating at full capacity. we did just that.

our vintage finds from japan in seoul
i actually dream about this crab regularly
kimchi fried rice
nothing better on a 30 degree day

not pictured? bags of korean skincare that would have cost us at least $1000 usd that we spent a couple hundred dollars on instead. we left seoul at 5pm on saturday, january 3rd and landed at 9am on saturday, january 3rd. gaining that time on the way back was critical before jumping into a work week.

the part of the trip for us was bali however the best part for me was being able to experience four new countries with one of my favorite humans on earth.

going to asia and have questions? message me!

xoxo,

k.tap

35.

for years, i have selected a word as my personal theme. at 34, my word was calm. i think i nearly mastered it. for 35, i chose: surrender.

the art of surrender isn’t defeat, giving up or powerlessness. to surrender is choosing acceptance over resistance, appreciation over expectations and flexibility over foolishness.

as someone who has historically struggled with needing to be in control, i knew this wouldn’t be an easy feat. even still, i was also confident i could remain calm when things became turbulent. the universe has a funny way of testing us as my life more or less blew up at the start of february. luckily, i had a trip to the dominican republic with 20 of my favorite humans to planned. i highly recommend getting people together to celebrate your trips around the sun in big and small ways.

reuniting with the girls after check-in

when traveling with groups, i believe in a balance of planned fun and leisure time. i asked everyone to be at a cocktail party —> dinner one night and invited anyone interested on a boat for a sunday funday. any other time, i would send a broadcast via paperless post so people knew where to find me at the resort. it was honestly so easy and there is nothing i love more than having so many of my loved ones in one place. below are some photos of those in between moments.

for the cocktail party and dinner, i asked everyone to wear black and/or white (as most have that in their closet). this was the first time all of us had been in the same place and it was such a blast.

and for the sunday funday on the boat, to say a time was had would be a gross understatement. there are three things that are ALWAYS worth saying yes to: a day on the water in the sunshine, an open bar and the additional cost for a photographer.

while there were hiccups with our travel agent, the resort was top notch, the weather was beautiful, the people present to celebrate me were extraordinary and the love i felt is immeasurable. arriving to the dominican republic already having the mindset of surrendering made the trip exponentially more enjoyable. when i think of the rollercoaster that 35 has been so far, surrendering was the only way to not just make it, but enjoy it.

i am already brainstorming for 36.

xoxo,

k. tap

kauai 2024

last year, one of my supervisors sent an email to our team offering up her condo in kauai as a way to offer some self-care to all the clinicians. instead of paying thousands of dollars for a week in paradise, we would simply pay the cleaning fee for the week. i was flabbergasted and knew i needed to take action immediately. i thought about who could best benefit from a week away and knew i needed to invite my twin, anj. we invited two of our girlfriends but as the youth say, life was lifin’ – they had to cancel. anj and i didn’t let that stop us from having a beautiful week in paradise with her son, enzo. getting to hawaii was far from easy for me with multiple delays and plane issues that required trekking through the airport to a new terminal all together before takeoff but once i landed, reunited with anj and enzo and saw that this was my backyard for the week, any travel exhaustion no longer mattered.

there is something extra magical about seeing a beautiful place through the eyes of a child. enzo is more knowledgeable about flowers and wildlife than almost anyone i know. even just the simplest walk to the pool would morph into a special moment for me.

we were fortunate to have a lengthy list of recommendations as multiple friends of ours have family in kauai and frequent the island. a beach that was a must was po’ipu. we made sure to stop at puka dogs to enjoy their unique hot dogs and fresh lemonade on the beach.

to say we were fortunate to have hanalei beach be in such close proximity to the condo is an understatement. that is where we spent the next few days.

outside of our time spent at the beach, we certainly had some favorite spots for a quick and fresh bite. hanalei poke was to die for. i also still dream about the shaved ice from wishing well. the flavor options are next level and the fact that there are organic options versus processed syrups is a game changer.

when we wanted a more upscale dinner, we traveled across the island to beach house restaurant. i’d highly suggest it and a reservation can be made on open table. tap on the link to read the full blog post about our dining experience. it was the one day we took the time to get dressed in something outside of swimwear.

there was something incredibly special about getting a tattoo to honor my grammy while there with one of my best friends who not only loved her (and was loved by her) dearly but walked alongside me through every stage of grieving her. i truly cannot thank twin enough for that. the libra club was the best tattoo shop i have ever stepped inside of. i immediately felt not just safe but comfortable. it felt like i was sitting in the living room one of my girlfriends. i am so grateful to hilly for recommending it.

for our final night on the island, we had dessert before dinner at jojo’s shaved ice (because wishing well was closed) before heading to the terrace restaurant and bar for dinner. enzo got to try shaved ice for the first time and i thoroughly enjoyed my calamari and poke nachos from the terrace.

while leaving the island proved to be chaotic (both because of sadness and because my preordered lyft/uber cancelled and the next ones i requested continued to cancel on me), i would go back in a heartbeat. kauai officially has a piece of my heart.

if you have an opportunity to travel with one of your best friends, the answer is yes. happy birthday, twin. i would go anywhere with you.

xoxo,

k. tap

coachella 2024

every april, you can find me in the desert at coachella. since 2015, i have never missed a year and after each trip, i am reminded of why i go each year. you might be thinking that coachella was last month so this post might seem a bit overdue. that wouldn’t be entirely wrong. however, presale tickets going on sale today and my group already securing ours for 2025 made today the perfect day to do this post.

each year, i purchase tickets blind. while i typically don’t like surprises, i love so many different genres of music that it has never felt risky to buy tickets without knowing who will be performing. at the beginning of this year when the lineup was dropped, many people talked about how the lineup was disappointing. i didn’t feel that way at all. i think people have become a bit too accustomed to seeing people like beyoncé, ariana grande and lady gaga. while all three of those artists are ones i love and some i’ve paid a pretty penny to go see outside of coachella, i don’t go to coachella expecting everyone to fall into the top 40 category. if anything, some of my favorite artists of all time are ones i discovered at coachella. anj and i actually talked at length about this on episode seven of our podcast, twin time.

let’s get into this year:

there were six of us staying in the sweetest airbnb in palm springs. the big nonnegotiables are multiple bathrooms, central air, great wifi and a pool. anything else is truly an added bonus. i typically do all of the grocery/booze shopping ahead of time and get to the house first so everyone else can arrive and just let their hair down. we stayed up late thursday night catching up, having cocktails, playing cards and most importantly, discussing our lineup. there was definitely some overlap but luckily, none of us were afraid to see people on our own.

friday was phenomenal. i started off at main stage in vip and listened to sabrina carpenter. she has pipes! next, i met up with anthony to see brittany howard. many people know her from the alabama shakes. this was arguably the best set of the day. her connectivity with her fans? the rawness of her voice? how soulful she was? UNMATCHED. at that set, we met this adorable australian couple. they were in their 50s and were at the set as a duo but were at the festival with their three kids (26, 23 and 16). you could feel the love radiating from them. the husband wanted to know how many coachellas we each had been to and was shook when i said this was my eighth. we exchanged stories about favorite sets from last year and all of us couldn’t stop talking about metro boomin. i will never get over how music truly brings people together in such a special way.

brittany howard – no zoom needed when you’re this close

next, i rapped along to lil uzi, swayed to peso pluma and was entranced by lana del rey – especially when she brought out jon batiste and billie eilish. lana and billie doing “ocean eyes” together will be seared in my memory forever. an added bonus? running into heidi klum in vip and watching her be an absolute gem to any person that walked up to her and/or asked for a photo. and yes – she is just as stunning in person. the icing on the cake? getting to see one of my favorite students from webb. julia is a fellow music junkie.

julia + me

saturday was sensational. our group definitely got a bit of a later start to the day but somehow, i packed in nearly everyone i wanted to see. i started with jon batiste – i didn’t know what to love more: him solo, his duet with willow smith or his pink velvet suit. this was a set i saw on my own. just when i thought i couldn’t be more impressed, i heard to beat drop for “back that azz up” – because i remember him doing tiny desk with juvenile, i figured he was going to crank out an instrumental. then, juvie himself came out on stage. as someone born in 1990, there are few things as impactful as “back that azz up” – seeing it live at coachella with an aperol spritz in hand will be something i tell my grandchildren about.

aperol spritz? always.
art installation

i retired at main stage for the rest of the night. why would i need to move when i could see blur, no doubt and tyler the creator back to back to back? blur sounded amazing. no doubt still has it and had me DEEP in my feels. if they do a world tour, i will paying whatever it costs to be front and center. olivia rodrigo seemed pumped to guest appear with them. tyler did not disappoint. he also brought out so many guests – childish gambino, asap rocky, kali uchis and one of my all time favorites, charlie wilson. i felt like i had teleported to the living room of my adopted grandmother, miss bessie. i will be sure to include a video on my instagram.

anthony + me
no doubt
tay + me

sunday was so special. i started with carin leon and am now a fan. next, i frolicked over to the rose garden for a little relaxation and was able to enjoy victoria monet’s set from there. this girl is TALENTED. i also can’t pretend i didn’t dance on my own when she brought out sexyy red. next, i met up with tay’s group and moved way closer to the stage for tems. her voice is as smooth as butter in person. she is also DROP DEAD GORGEOUS. i don’t know that i’ve seen a more humble and grateful performer. wiz kid and justin beiber coming out? i think the crowd could have collectively fainted. next, we went over to see jhene aiko. while i’ve seen her do a song or two, this was my first time witnessing a full set. she was incredible. i was already sold before she brought out big sean, tyga, saweetie or omarion.

tems

we ended the night at doja cat – i knew she would kill it after seeing her at coachella in 2022 and at chase center here in sf in 2023. talk about a true performer – if you haven’t seen her, run – don’t walk!

with that being said, whether or not i was going in 2025 was a no brainer. my group secured tickets this morning and are already planning. was i exhausted afterwards? absolutely. my energy looked pretty similar to misu’s on the drive back.

misu post coachella 2024

i was recently asked when i would retire going to coachella. i think my answer is if i’m super pregnant or newly breastfeeding. otherwise, you can catch me in the desert as long as i am able bodied.

if you’ve gone to coachella, what was your favorite year or favorite performance? if you haven’t gone, what are you waiting for?

xoxo,

k. tap

glow.

one of the many things that contributes to my house feeling like a home are candles. i’ve loved candles since i was a kid (likely because both of my parents are candle people as well). i love the cozy feeling a candle can create and how a scent can really change the vibe of a space. at the beginning of the year, my old supervisor wanted to commemorate our year working together and we talked about different activities we could do. when i mentioned loving candles, she brought up candle making. let me introduce you to: glow.

glow candle lounge

maybe you’ve heard of petroglyph? it’s a ceramic studio where you get to glaze a variety of pieces. glow is the sister studio. there is so much to love about glow. from the spacious and inviting studio to the extraordinary customer service to the variety of candles and scents that you get to choose from – there is truly something for everyone.

part of the studio
glow associate
wall of wax
candles to create + pricing
soy wax candles
scents to choose from: floral, fresh, sweet + fruity, earthy

while i went with just one person in january, i hosted a birthday party for a dear friend here a couple of weeks ago. glow was able to comfortably accommodate a party of nine (i made a reservation to be safe since we were coming in on a saturday) and it was seamless. each of us were walked through a tutorial about how to build our candle and it was such a fun and relaxing experience.

i knew i was interested in a more layered look so i chose a candle mold and the appropriate number of tiles for said mold. i also selected some charms/decorations. i chose two champagne bottles to celebrate the end of the time with my previous boss. we had a lot to toast to so it seemed appropriate.

candle mold, wax, spackle and decorations
breaking down the wax
ready for the final step (pouring hot wax in to fill the spaces)
this step is done by an associate

the following day, i swung by the studio to pick up our pieces. they turned out wonderfully!

final product!
boss’s final product

when at glow a couple of weeks ago, some friends did soy wax candles and those were so cool as well. i not only loved the vessels, i was obsessed with the dried flowers added to each of their candles.

soy wax candles

glow is located in willow glen (in san jose, ca) on lincoln avenue. there are a ton of great restaurants on the street if you want to make a day out of it the way we did. glow also allows you to bring food in if you’d like to either bring something from home or pick up something from a nearby establishment. when i return this weekend, i will likely bring little snack plates for my girlfriends and i to tie us over until dinner.

i cannot recommend this place enough! and for those of you who are parents, it is definitely kid friendly.

if you choose to visit soon, don’t forget to let me know!

xoxo,

k. tap