Tag: do the work

thought of the week: it’s simple.

you guys – february is in two days. somehow, january has been both the shortest and longest month ever. while i am in disbelief that we are rapidly approaching february, the days have been so packed that each day feels like two days. with february being a month centered around love, especially romantic relationships, i have been asked to do some mental health programming around healthy relationships at the university where i work. while i already have a slide deck prepared and a healthy relationship assessment for students to take, i typically like to have simple takeaways for them. this quote i saw last month will be one of those takeaways – it is so simple yet so critical.

if you’re doing the work, you deserve to be with someone who is also doing the work. it’s simple. -sara kuburic (millennial therapist)

when it comes to relationships of any kind, but especially romantic ones, don’t shortchange yourself by being with someone who is emotionally stunted without a growth mindset if you are someone who is actively doing the work. no matter how much work you do, it will not be enough to offset what someone else is not doing. don’t exhaust yourself by pouring into people who are not able to pour into you or even pour into themselves. it really is simple.

xoxo,

k. tap

thought of the week: you can’t get upset when it rains

it’s safe to say that 2020 hasn’t been a breeze for most of us. in the same breath, i have been putting in a substantial amount of work when it comes to goal setting and figuring out ways to hit my one, five and ten year plan. it hasn’t been easy and it hasn’t always been fun. in fact, many times, it has been tumultuous and felt overwhelming. i rested when necessary (which was a new concept for me) and found innovative ways to stay motivated; it has paid off. in the last two weeks, i have been presented with some exciting opportunities for next year.

it made me think of this quote i saw back in august and it was too good not to share:

“if you have the audacity to ask the universe for something, make sure you have the courage to show up and put in the work for it to arrive.

you can’t ask for rainbows then get upset when it rains.” -judith martinez, founder of in her shoes

yes, i absolutely had to weather the storm this year. as we enter the last month of 2020, i find myself feeling incredibly reflective. this year has required me to be more courageous and in doing so, there seem to be some great things on the horizon.

that being said, i have two questions for you:

1. do you get upset when it rains in your life?

2. have you been working to create your rainbow?

xoxo,

k. tap