Tag: choose wisely

thought of the week: who are you choosing?

i was having a conversation recently about the people closest to me. the friend i was talking to mentioned that i am one of the few people he knows that has both quality and quantity in terms of my friends. i don’t know that i had ever thought of it in that way but certainly agreed with him. when asked how i chose those in my circle, the answer was easy.

i choose people who consistently choose me.

at 30, i refuse to have any relationships that aren’t reciprocal. that required me to make some cuts. and here’s the thing: i don’t love the people i cut any less, i just love them from a distance. in my old age, i am becoming more particular about who i am choosing.

“actions speak louder than words but consistency speaks louder than both. choose people that always make you feel wanted.”

if you’ve been following for some time and know about my love languages, you know i don’t need to hear much – i am far more interested in what you do. that’s what i pay closest attention to. something else to consider is the consistency of said actions. while i choose actions over words, if the actions aren’t consistent, what’s the point?

when looking at those you are pouring into, i want to know who are you choosing?

xoxo,

k. tap

thought of the week: orbit wisely.

happy saturday! i hope everyone is enjoying the long weekend – lord knows i needed it. anyway, on to our thought of the week…

i have found myself being even more protective over my energy this year. it could be because i am 30, it could be because we are in a pandemic or it could be because my career requires me to give quite a bit of myself from both an emotional and mental standpoint.

while i am fortunate to have both quality and quantity in terms of the relationships in my life, i truly believe that the people closest to you serve as mirrors of who you are. i have also found that i often pick up on the energy of those around me. that includes the good, the bad and the ugly. do you find that happens for you?

i discuss this concept with my clients quite a bit. there is nothing wrong with being protective over your energy. in fact, i encourage it. i came across a quote recently that hits the nail on head regarding the people you choose to be around.

“the people you surround yourself with, are like your planets. orbit wisely.” -rachel wolchin

who are you surrounding yourself with? are they giving as much as they are taking? what is your energy like after being with them?

xoxo,

k. tap