Month: March 2020

thought of the week: you aren’t alone in this

it is no secret that i love brene brown. she helped get me through some of the toughest parts of grad school and life thereafter. you might remember my post on her book, the gifts of imperfection.

anyway, one of the biggest lessons i’ve learned as i’ve grown older is that it isn’t only okay to ask for help, it should be both encouraged and applauded. it takes someone self-aware and humble to be able to ask for assistance. i think as children, we are often conditioned to be able to do things on our own. and then, we unfortunately carry this mindset into heavier things as we get older. and sometimes, i need my inner circle to help me more evenly distribute that load. while i used to struggle with this thought process, much less saying it out loud, i know this to be true. and each time i ask for help, the next time, it is a little easier to do so. like anything worthwhile, it takes practice.

naturally, brene seems to have a quote that is applicable for every life lesson. this one was no different.

“we don’t have to do all of it alone. we were never meant to.” -brene brown

sometimes, i think we just need a simple reminder that life is too tumultuous and unpredictable to battle each obstacle alone.

when’s the last time you’ve been vulnerable enough to acknowledge needing a little extra help? more importantly, were you able to ask for said help without feeling shame?

xoxo,

k. tap

skims

this post is long overdue but i now feel like it will be more thorough as i have ordered more and more products as the months have gone on.

 

in september, i placed my first order with skims.  i had a wedding to attend in october where i had plans on wearing a gown with a thigh high slit and figured the solution short would be just what i needed if i still wanted to smoothing/shaping everywhere else.  sweater season was soon approaching and i have some with v backs/off the should situations and figured this would be the perfect time to try the scoop neck bra and mesh triangle bralette.  while i ended up going with a different gown so i could dance more at the wedding without fear of exposing my undergarments to the guests, both the scoop neck bra and mesh triangle bralette have gotten plenty of good use.  they feel buttery against the skin, stay in place and are more comfortable than an actual bra while giving good lift/support.

 

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after that successful first order, i started thinking about what i would be wearing off my 30th birthday celebration in vegas.  while five options were purchased for the three events in the event that something did not thrill me once there, two of them were items where it would be impossible to wear a bra.  i knew i would be doing plenty of dancing and moving around and wanted the girls to stay in place.  enter: skims pasties and body tape.  not only did it work like a charm, i was wildly impressed with the color options and how closely smokey quartz matched my actual skin tone.  even with hours of drinking and dancing, when i was removing the pasties and body tape at nearly 5am, the adhesive was just as strong as it had been when applied.

 

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my most recent purchase was the long sleeved black crew neck bodysuit and i am honestly just waiting for the right date/girls night out to wear it.  it holds me in the right places and accentuates the things i want highlighted.

 

there really is not enough shape wear out there that is all inclusive in terms of color options and sizing.  skims hits the nails on the head for both.  while all three of my orders have been placed directly through skims.com, the line is now also available at nordstrom.  if you are a card member like me that likes to rack up those points to get a nordstrom note, you know this is a game changer.

 

do you have any skims products you love?  anything you have questions about?  let me know.

 

xoxo,

k. tap