thought of the week: it’s not just you

i travel quite a bit whether it be for business or pleasure.  while airports can be stressful for some people, if timed properly, airports can be a wonderful place to be.  one of my favorite things about them are the different art installations.  lax has been undergoing a pretty serious remodel and this piece below is right past security when heading towards the escalators in terminal one.

 

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“everyone’s going through something”

 

what first drew me in were the colors.  it made this particular piece pop off of the wall.  then i noticed how the two girls on the right are just holding and comforting one another.  with me working in mental health at an all girls school, i could really appreciate what that represented. and then, i finally read the message: everyone’s going through something.

 

it is simple.  it is to the point.  it is ridiculously accurate.  it is something i remind my clients of when they are feeling alone/as if no one else understands.  it is something i actively remind myself of on days where i am not being as compassionate and empathetic as i could be.  it is a much needed reminder that no one’s life is perfect, despite what it may look like from the outside/on social media.

 

it’s not just you that’s going through something.  remember that.

 

xoxo,

k. tap

happy birthday, mama bear

if you know me well, you definitely know my mom, felecia.  well, today, this baddie turns 56!

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to celebrate, we did a mother/daughter trip to las vegas with our two favorite girls (my godmother and godsister) – it was a blast. we laughed until we cried, drank more tito’s than what should be allowed in a 72 hour period, ate great food, played a little blackjack and had impromptu dance/karaoke parties in our hotel suite.

what i love most about my mom (aside from how she is literally always down to have a good time) is how huge her heart is. i don’t think i know a more compassionate individual. people just gravitate towards her because her energy is magnetic. she lights up every room she walks into and my brother and i really hit the jackpot when the universe made sure this wonderful woman was ours forever.

happy birthday to my magnificent mama. i love you to the moon and back.

wildcraft

whenever i have friends in town from various places, i really do my best to try and meet them (for a meal, a drink or both) close to wherever it is they are staying.  la is not the easiest to navigate, and i say that as someone who has only ever lived in california.  so when my friend taylor told me she was going to be in marina del ray over labor day weekend, i quickly scanned my mental rolodex and knew just where to take her…wildcraft.

 

wildcraft is this amazing modern italian restaurant in culver city (which is just a few miles from where tay was staying).  i have been for brunch, happy hour and dinner and have a great experience every single time.  from the food to the drinks to the ridiculously knowledgeable and friendly servers, i cannot recommend it enough.

 

we went for brunch and instead of going crazy with their bottomless mimosas (which i would recommend if you do not have plans directly afterwards), we had the le grand courtage with brut rose.  it is an infusion carafe with fresh fruit and mint – you get to choose what sparkling goodness you want inside (prosecco, brut or brut rosé).  as tay said, we are all about the rosé all day life so it was a no brainer.

 

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while their brunch menu is online, the brunch cocktails are not included so i have added a photo below for your convenience.  i know for me, the cocktails being served at brunch are just as important as the food.

 

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we started started with the rosemary bread and wild arugula salad.  naturally, i had to get a side of avocado for the salad.  i will admit, i thought our server may have been exaggerating about how much her mom loved the rosemary bread but once i had it, i understood the obsession.  i mean, who says no to honey ricotta and homemade jam?  the flavor profile was unreal.  tay and i both loved the salad and i just feel like a meal is incomplete if there is not something green being consumed.

 

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for our main course, tay and i were both struggling between a couple of the pizzas.  so we decided to each get one the other liked enough to swap a slice or two.  she got the burrata pie and i got the bacon fontina.

 

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what sets their burrata pie apart from others are definitely the squash blossom and orange oil.  their bacon fontina is just perfectly done and the crust is thin, crispy around the edges and doughy in the center.  i ordered a side of garlic aioli to dip it in and was in heaven.

 

if you want to go to wildcraft, i would suggest making a reservation via opentable.  you will be happy you did.

 

xoxo,

k. tap

thought of the week: compassion is incomplete without the ‘i’

i am all about channeling the same good energy that we pour into others regularly into ourselves.  i think this is even more important for people like me who are either healers by profession or healers because that is the role they were born into (and fulfill in the lives of their loved ones).

 

with that being said, the actual definition of compassion always seemed like it was missing the mark in my opinion – “sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it.”  why is the only concern about being sympathetic towards others and alleviating their stress?

 

when i saw this quote my friend jasmine posted, i had to steal it.

 

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“if your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” -jack kornfield

 

when reading more about jack kornfield, i was pleasantly surprised that he is a buddhist practitioner and introduced buddhist mindfulness practices to the western world.  every buddhist i personally know comes from a collectivist culture where it is not uncommon to put the needs and feelings of others before the needs and feelings that they themselves are experiencing.  it made me happy to know of the work jack is doing to spread messages like the one above and that he has such a significant platform to do so.

 

the quote made me take a step back and acknowledge that i will not be able to do my job of being sympathetic and aware of the distress of my clients (with the end goal being to aid in alleviating that stress) if i am not channeling that same compassion inward.

 

compassion is incomplete without the ‘i’ – don’t forget that.

 

xoxo,

k. tap

 

 

perch

being that i work somewhere that often requires me to see clients back to back to back, there are times where i do not go outside for seven hours at a time.  with that being said, there are few things that compare to having a great meal and some pretty cocktails with a view with people who started off as coworkers and have become some of my closest friends.  if you haven’t already been, you have to add this place to your list of places to go in downtown la – perch.

 

prior to today, i had only been to perch in the evenings.  at night, the vibe is dark and sultry.  seeing it during the day presented an entirely different vibe – it was warm and inviting.  my girls and i sat outside on the covered terrace for brunch and started with some cocktails.

 

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the berry la was pretty much made for me.  it had vodka, st. germaine, berries, lemon and rose and is light, subtly sweet and refreshing.  both amanda and rebecca started off with the penthouse passion which is tequila based with mint, lime and passion fruit puree and described it as tart with a little kick at the end.  we also ordered a bottle of the poema cava brut and i just decided to keep my first glass with the ice and berries because it was getting a little toasty on the terrace + because i love fruit that has been sitting in bubbles.  is there anything better?

 

we shared the baked brie and it did not disappoint, especially with the freshness of the apple pecan slaw.

 

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their take on huevos rancheros was beautifully plated and thoroughly enjoyed by amanda.

 

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i am a sucker for a burger at brunch so i had to try it.  the burger was so juicy and who doesn’t love gruyere cheese and a fried egg?  because i am obsessed with avocado, i had them add it.  the burger is served with fries or a salad – i am going to keep it 100, i pretty much never say no to fries.   i have no regrets whatsoever.

 

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instead of dessert, we opted for another cocktail.  this is easily one of the best drinks i have ever had.  as a blogger, i found it both hilarious and ironic that it is called writers block.  it has grey goose la poire vodka, st. germain, lemon and sparkling wine.  absolutely delicious.

 

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once we wrapped up the eating portion, we headed to the rooftop and met easily the most hilarious security guard i have ever encountered in life.  he also took like 15 pictures of us from various angles when we asked for one which made me so happy because i love an option but don’t want to be the annoying customer that is like, “can we please get some standing shots as well?”  it was such a clear day and the views were gorgeous.

 

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whether you go during the day for brunch, at night for dinner or just to the rooftop at any time for cocktails, this place is an absolute must.

 

i wouldn’t go without a reservation but opentable makes that ridiculously easy.

 

have you been to perch?  what’s your favorite dish on the menu?  and more importantly, your favorite cocktail?

 

xoxo,

k. tap